Nev can’t remember the exact moment he realised his wife, Nikki, was seriously unwell. It happened gradually while the couple was adjusting to becoming new parents, holding down jobs and coping on little sleep.
Their baby, Taylor, was a bundle of joy by day but kept them up most of the night. Exhaustion took over and Nev knew that life felt hard, but also knew he had a strong and supportive family and believed they could work through it together.
“It doesn’t really suddenly get bad, it’s something that progressively gets bad and because it’s progressive you probably don’t realise what’s happening for a while. And obviously you are caught up in the moment of having a new child and day to day life.”
It wasn’t until Taylor was nearly three years old that Nikki was finally diagnosed with postnatal depression and post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of Taylor’s birth, which had been very difficult. The diagnosis almost felt like a relief as the couple got external help from Bluebell Care Trust.
“Don’t hide from it, don’t be scared to admit that things aren’t quite right and do try to get help, because you are not helping yourself by doing that. The more you bottle it up probably the worse ultimately it will get.”
Nev and Nikki are a close, happy couple who now cherish the time they spend together as a family.
Cash raised through Sport Relief is helping to fund maternal mental health projects, such as the Bluebell Care Trust. Based in Bristol, the charity supports mums, dads and their families dealing with depression related to pregnancy and birth. It offers support groups and one-to-one mentoring, and will also soon establish a drop-in centre in the city centre.
If you have been affected by maternal mental health issues and would like more information on support and services please visit the Maternal Mental Health Alliance.
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